It is with a heavy heart to report that much of this Memorial Page was lost, both on disk and hard-drive! If the memorial you sent to the Lupie Bin for your loved one DOES NOT appear on this page, and you would like to replace it, PLEASE send it again. I will make every effort to assure this does NOT happen again. Thank you SO much! ~ Julie

In Memory Of....

our loved ones who have passed from lupus. Gone, but not forgotten.

This page is dedicated to our friend Debbie (DebbieK708 / Grits) who passed September 1, 2001. Always in our hearts.

Perhaps they are not stars,

but rather openings in Heaven

where the love of our lost ones

pours through and shines down upon us

to let us know they are happy.

Dedication to Debbie (Grits)

Even though we lived hundreds of miles away, you in Louisiana, me in New York, we spoke just about everyday.
You were one of the first "LUPIES" I met in chat.
You took me under your wing and never let me down.
Debbie, you were always there for me whenever I needed you.

We were like sisters.

You gave me the nickname "the Yank" because I was from New York and I gave you the nickname
GRITS (Girls Raised In The South.)

It was God and Lupus that brought us together and it was God and Lupus that took you away.
I will never forget you, my lupie sister - you will always be part of my life.

I love you, Jo (the Yank)

Oh, Debbie! I am so happy that you now have your brand new eyes, your new lungs, your new blood, YOUR BRAND NEW BODY that doesn't hurt anywhere!!
But, I miss you so much already.....You were such an inspiration to so many people. We saw you go through so much these past couple of years, but your spirit never wavered.
You and Jo were quite a team with your never-ending wit and love for each other.....There will be an empty chair in the room now. Your family will be in my prayers.
I love you, Marty

My Dear Friend Debbie.......
There is so much I want to say but can hardly find the words......YOU touched my life in so many ways.
Gave me good advice, made me laugh 'til I thought I would split wide open, made me feel I could do anything with our "Thelma and Louise" alter egos.
There are no words to express how much I am going to miss you, but you are out of pain now and as always you are in a postion to look after all of us now!!
That was the role you loved the most; being a terrific friend, great Mother, Wife and Grandmother.....YOU will be missed by sooooo many.
Love YOU "Lou".......
Maggie "Thelma" (Scottia123)

Oh Debbie, I just found out that you're no longer with us. I feel so guilty because I've been so involved with myself that I feel that I've let you down.
You were always there for me. Holding me up when I was down, sending me notes of encouragement, and sharing a laugh.
May God keep you close to him. May the angels watch over your family and make this time easier for them.
My life is better for having known you.
- Bettianne (May 2002)

Dedication to Jackie B.

I lost a good friend and my daughters god-mother to lupus on December 5, 2001.
Her name was Jackie B. She was only 28 years old.
She was diagnosed a little over 5 years ago and she always braved through her many relapses and never gave up.
She left behind her loving, adoring husband, Paul, of 8 years.



Jackie was truly a treasure and always will be.

- Sue

Dedication to "Auntie Mary"

My dear Auntie Mary, I hope you are dancing in heaven. You dance in my heart every day.
Lupus took you away from all of us.

Hold my hand and walk me through these days. Watch over everyone.

- I miss you, Alee

Dedication to My Mother

My mother was the bravest person I have ever known. She never let anything get her down.
She was diagnosed with lupus in 1978 and died in 1983.
She suffered more than anyone should ever have to.
She lost her arm and was hospitalized so many times. She had a kidney transplant that failed. Yet, through everything, she was so strong!

I miss my mother so much, especially now that I have lupus.

I love you mom.

- Marsha

Dedication to My Grandmother

This memorial is for my grandmother who died two days ago.
She was my hero and the one who understood me the most. She held our family together.
She was a great person and I'm sure she will always have a big space in my heart.

- Love, Brandi (5/5/2002)

Memorial to My Sister Monica

We lost my sister Monica M. on January 1 2001, after fighting lupus for just two years.
She was the kindest and the bravest person I have ever known.
The disease took a toll on her body, but never her spirit. Throughout it all she always remained positive and maintaned her faith in GOD.
I miss her everyday.

I was just diagnosed with lupus 2 days ago. The only way I am getting through it is because I know she is watching over me.
I love you Mo-Mo and I'll never forget you!

- Your sister Alicia S. (6/14/2002)

Memorial to Shelly

Michelle (Shelly) Veit lost her 10 year battle with lupus on December 30, 2001.
Shelly, I think about you every day. I've done my best this year to keep our nieces going, and when I bought their Christmas gifts, I know you were helping.
I'm still fighting this auto-immune problem I have, although no one can agree on whether it's lupus or not. Your memory and bravery keep me going.
Dumpy is doing well with me, and is one of the most affectionate kitties, ever.
I hope that you don't mind that we're going to share her ashes whenever she comes over the rainbow bridge to you. :-)

- Betsy (12/20/2002)

In memory of Auntie Mary

Some times it's hard to think of you and be happy too because you are not here with me now, but I do think of you a whole lot.
You should be in heaven with everything that is good. I thought that good things happen to good people, so I think that the best thing happened to you.
You are with baby Jesus and that is good.
I hope you send us an answer to what causes lupus so no one else has to get sick like you.
I am loving Uncle Bob and Nana and Papa too so they can meet up with you. See you on the other side of the gate. Look for us. Miss you Auntie.
P.S. Mommy misses you a whole lot too!
P.P.S.S. Mommy did not buy the cleats yet. Tell her that Alee needs them.

- Sammi (7/25/2003)

In loving memory of Maricela

Hi my name is Margarita.
I lost my sister Maricela to Lupus January 27, 2006.
Maricela was a beautiful person with a smile that would brighten up the room.
I lost my sister, best friend, and my hero. I miss her so much that I still pick up the phone to call her.
I just want people to know to walk/run or make a donation to help find a cure for this disease.
She will be missed, but she never be forgotten.
I Love You Maricela, from your lil' sis.

In Loving Memory Of Maricela
March 24, 1961 - January 27, 2006

In memory of Janet Lange

I was so very sorry to hear of your passing.
We have been phone friends for so long, and now we will not meet here on this earth.
I will greatly miss our long talks about our grandkids.
You join so many wonderful friends of ours. Give Louise and Jan a hug for me. We will all be together one day.
Now you are truly singing for God.
I love you girl.
Carol aka carlohug47

Neil Lawrence Tuton / 1943 - 2008

A good man, a loving man, a funny man, a giving man. Ask anyone who knew Neil and no doubt they will tell you these are all good descriptions,
albeit not nearly good enough, to describe the man we were lucky enough to know and call friend.
Neil gave of himself unselfishly through the CHI program - a student exchange program - which allowed children worldwide to know and love him.
He always had a good story or joke ready - always upbeat. Neil never gave any clue that he felt anything other than "fine".
Above all, Neil loved his family and was not afraid to say so!
Neil, you are missed more than you would ever imagine!
Remembering you and not forgetting you anytime soon.
~ Julie

Remembering Tara / May 26, 1978 - October 2, 2008

Tara was well known and well loved by so many - in person and on the internet.
Known online as "Super Lupus", she touched and educated many people.
Once you met Tara, she became your friend.

It was with passion that Tara enlightened others about lupus and pulmonary hypertension - diseases she lived with daily.
Tara was courageous in her long battle with lupus and PH and faced the fight head-on, without complaint or self-pity.

Tara, kindred-spirit - I miss your infectious UP attitude and laugh.
Seems no sooner we became friends you had to move away and now you've gone where angels tread and I'm left sad and missing you.
My only consolation is knowing you are pain free, breathing easy, and watching over all of us!
We couldn't ask for a better guardian angel. Our guardian angel with beaded glitter wings!

Until we meet again, Dear Friend...

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